As the title implies, this site will continually update changes and trends in anger management services, research,referrals and provider training. In addition, books,CDs,videos and DVDs used in anger management programs will be introduced.

Friday, August 31, 2007

Anger is a Condition in Which the Tongue Works Faster than the Mind

The way we appraise (see) our environment at any given time is important in determining how we respond emotionally. If we appraise a situation as a threat, put-down, or an insult, we are more likely to respond with anger. If we appraise a situation positively, our response will be positive. Two people can appraise the same situation differently. Our feelings are very personal and do not follow rules of logic. We can appraise the same situation differently at different times based on our moods, level of stress, and clarity of thought and consequently respond differently.

If we are hungry, angry, sad, anxious, pessimistic, optimistic or happy, our style of communication will reflect the predominate feelings which we are experiencing. If we perceive the speaker to be hostile, aggressive, demeaning or in some way negative, we will likely respond in kind. If we perceive the speaker to be compassionate, reasonable and understanding, our response will be assertive, emotionally intelligent and appropriate.

When angry, our style of communication is more likely to be aggressive, passive aggressive or passive. All of these three styles of communication are ineffective and not likely to lead to a successful resolution of whatever the conflict may be. The only style of communication, which is designed to clearly express what we feel and what we need from the listener, is assertive communication.

Communication is one of the four areas of focus in the Anderson & Anderson Anger Management Curriculum. The style of communication we use at any given time is largely determined by our mood, level of stress and how we appraise the situation in which we find ourselves.

The assertive communicator speaks in a reasonable tone, establishes eye contact with the listener, uses “I” messages, and clearly states his or her needs, feelings and requests. He invites the listener to work towards a mutually satisfactory resolution of the conflict. He consciously influences the listener by his own behavior. He demonstrates skills in emotional intelligence.

Any motivated participant in an anger management course, in which anger management, stress management, communication and emotional intelligence enhancement skills are taught, can master assertive communication.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF
Fellow, American Orthopsychiatric Association
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management

Thursday, August 30, 2007

Anger Management/Executive Coaching for Physicians

In response to the need for a one-on-one and sensitive intervention model for physicians, Anderson & Anderson is now offering a twelve-hour executive coaching program for doctors. This program is available at our Brentwood office or on-site anywhere in the United States. These sessions are consistent with the new Joint Commission requirements for abusive physicians, and are approved by the California Board of Medical Quality Assurance as well as Medical Boards in Texas, Tennessee, Pennsylvania and Florida. This program is listed in the Directory of Physician Assessment and Remedial Education Programs, Federation of State Medical Boards.

Topics in this coaching class include:

• Assessment at intake, focusing on the participant's level of functioning in managing stress, anger, communication and emotional intelligence. We do not provide psychological testing nor is our intervention considered counseling or psychotherapy.

•Two client workbooks, which include didactic information and exercises focusing on enhancing emotional intelligence, improving assertive communication, as well as behavioral strategies for recognizing and managing anger and stress.

•Complimentary “Gaining Control of Ourselves DVD” along with follow-up kit.

•Post-test at termination designed to determine the level of change during the course.

•Our services are provided with the utmost in confidentiality for all participants.

For more information regarding our executive coaching program for physicians, please click here.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anderson & Anderson, The Trusted Name in Anger Management

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Emerging Anger Management Social Entrepreneurs

Posted by Carlos R. Todd in anger management Classes, anger management seminars, anger management contracts, couples anger management, North Carolina anger Management Classes, charlotte anger management classes, Social Entrepreneurs, anger management training, anger management certification, anger management trackback.

At a time when managed healthcare is disrupting how those trained in mental health deliver quality services, there are new breeds of entrepreneurs who are doing what they love, while still maintaining the financial resources they need to invest in their continued clinical growth and family obligations.

George Anderson, the creator of the globally recognized Anderson and Anderson anger management model, trained all of the providers in question, in anger management. They represent a rare mix of mental health training, and they are business savvy. Anyone looking for high quality anger management consulting, executive coaching, or organization training should not hesitate to call anyone on the list below.

George Anderson: The creator of the globally recognized Anderson and Anderson model, which teaches anger management, stress management, emotional intelligence and communication skills. His website is arguably the most visited anger management website in the world. Visit to learn more about this groundbreaking model of anger management.

Colbert Williams: The creator of the first dynamic anger management marketing DVD that was accepted by anger management providers nationwide. His website is

Shannon Munford: He is a young entrepreneur with five anger management sites in California. The reality is that many mental health practitioners find it difficult to support one location, but Shannon is serving his community with several locations, while building an impressive business model. His website is

Gregory Kyles: His organization, called the Anger Management Institute of Texas, is posed to become the epicenter of anger management in that state. Mr. Kyles is redefining anger management by helping us to understand that classes can be completed in a friendly, safe and professional environment. His website is

Sonia Brill: How could we forget Ms. Brill? In about a year, Sonia Brill has transformed her small anger management practice into a consulting firm providing highly specialized services to former couples who are facing divorce, yet cannot reach settlements due to intense anger. To learn more about Ms. Brill, visit

The list is in no way complete; however, the five mentioned above deserve our attention as a new breed of social entrepreneurs. They all come highly recommended.

Carlos Todd, LPC, NCC, CAMF
Carlos Todd is the owner of Todd’s Anger Management Solutions with two locations in Charlotte, NC

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

My Experience with George Anderson, World Renowned Provider of Anger Management

I am a retired physician who decided to enter the teaching world and required extensive training and certification in Anger Management. After a lengthy search for sources for this training, I chose Anderson and Anderson's program because Professor George Anderson, a former member of the staff of UCLA, is the foremost leader and world-renowned expert and writer in Anger Management.

Last week I attended the Certification and Training Workshop in Anger Management presented by Professor Anderson in Oakland, California. Several students and guests were in attendance and represented Las Vegas, Nevada, Cleveland, Ohio, Portland, Oregon, Fairbanks, Alaska as well as Northern California and locally, Oakland and San Jose, California. By profession, the attendees included physicians, a psychologist, a college professor and several drug and rehabilitation counselors.

The course was presented and taught by Professor Anderson. The workshop training was for three days, eight hours each and the syllabus included Adolescent and Adult Anger Management as well as Executive Coaching. Included in the course was instruction and training in both short and long form Conover Assessment Testing, a well-known assessment program. Several published books by George Anderson are used in this course: CONTROLLING OURSELVES (2003), GAINING CONTROL OF OURSELVES (2005), A Suggested Guide for Anger Management/Facilitator’s GUIDE (2007) and EXECUTIVE COACHING.

Professor Anderson's didactic teaching methods include not only lectures and personal observations and group discussion, but also DVD presentations of the subject matter, which was presented in an understandable, concise and intelligent way. Time was available for question and answers as well extensive discussion.

The presentation of this course was on an extremely high level and was the equivalent to that of any college or medical school course I have ever taken.

Dr. Steven J. Sinert (August, 28, 2007)

Monday, August 27, 2007

Anger management vs. Crisis Counseling

I turned on the evening news here in Baltimore and heard a news alert regarding a murder suicide at a local diagnostic engineering company. The initial news was very sketchy. It reported that an employee had met with his supervisor. At some point later, gunshots were heard and both were found dead in the supervisor’s office.

Little is new or novel about this story. We have all heard it repeated many times throughout history. Unfortunately, crisis counseling does not offer any lessons in preventing such occurrences. Rather, crisis counseling is a strategy useful in helping those affected manage their grief following such tragedies.

In contrast, anger management is more likely to prevent tragedies like this from occurring. The United States Postal Service is an organization that has implemented a proactive anger management program. Any employee of the postal service can enroll in a ten-session anger management program during his or her workday without cost. Any supervisor or manager can recommend anger management for an employee who appears to be exhibiting signs of stress or anger. These classes are mandated for recalcitrant employees. The days of ‘going postal’ are rapidly becoming passé.

Effective anger management classes contain the following components:

• An assessment administered at intake to determine the client’s level of functioning in managing anger, stress, assertive communication and empathy.
• A client workbook with material designed to teach skills in recognizing and managing anger, stress, effective communication and enhancing emotional intelligence.
• Professionally trained anger management facilitators are selected to provide all anger management classes.
• Following the completion of the course, each client should have a posttest to determine the effectiveness of the course.

Individual Executive coaching should be made available for people who manage others. These classes must be offered on a one on one format.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anderson & Anderson, The Trusted Name in Anger Management

Friday, August 24, 2007

Anderson & Anderson is on a Roll!

The Anderson & Anderson model of anger management has become popular with professionals and the public alike. In the month of August, we have received numerous phone calls from doctors’ offices, law offices, and investment firms inquiring about our executive coaching program. Requests have been made for us to provide onsite executive coaching, as well as anger management training programs in the state of Texas. George Anderson will fly out next month to Texas to provide these services. Additionally, both of our training seminars for the month of August are shaping up to be successful.

Why is this happening? First of all, our marketing strategy is drawing interest. We cannot stress enough the importance of marketing a product or service that has an abundance of value. Anderson & Anderson as a company does not sit idly by, waiting for people to visit its website. We have actively promoted this program by sending our marketing DVDs to various organizations and networks, placing the DVD on many video-uploading websites, placing ads in as many relevant sources as we possibility can, and providing good customer service.

Secondly, the Anderson & Anderson anger management curriculum is a force to be reckoned with. Currently, there is no other anger management program that is as powerful and relevant to the intervention of managing stress, anger, assertive communication, and emotional intelligence as the Anderson & Anderson anger management curriculum. The curriculum itself is user friendly for the anger management client and the facilitator.

Finally, Anderson & Anderson and its trained anger management providers are the most professional when dealing with courthouses. Our intervention model has never been turned down by any court judge or house in the nation. Although the government does not regulate anger management, judges want to be sure that those they sentence to anger management enroll into a program that is certified to provide the services. Our network of anger management providers use our curriculum and follow our guidelines for providing the best anger management services in the world.

Please visit our website at or contact our office manager at 310-207-3591 for more information about our program and services.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers
Anderson & Anderson, The Trusted Name in Anger Management

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Brooklyn District Attorney’s Office, Among Others, to use the Anderson & Anderson Model of Anger Management

The Anderson & Anderson model of anger management has clearly become popular with interested professions based outside of Los Angeles County and California. The Anger Management Training Seminar scheduled for August 22nd-24th has commenced and is currently a success. Eleven individuals in total are attending this three-day seminar in order to expand the services they currently provide in their respective professions.

Professionals who are attending this training seminar include a representative and caseworker from the Brooklyn District Attorney’s Office (Kings County), two counselors from Centerbest, Inc. (an organization in Upland, CA), a probation officer and teacher from Los Angeles, a psychologist from Valencia, CA, whose wife already utilizes the anger management curriculum for their organization, and a Licensed Clinical Social Worker from Bellflower.

Anderson & Anderson conducts this certification-training seminar at least once every month in our main office. We also periodically conduct trainings outside of Los Angeles County and outside California. Please visit our website or call our office to inquire about future anger management certification trainings.

Rasheed Ahmed
Office Manager
Anderson & Anderson
Trusted Name in Anger Management

Tuesday, August 21, 2007

Anderson & Anderson Sends New Marketing Videos All Over the World

Anderson & Anderson, the world-renowned provider of anger management, has released two new marketing videos. These videos explain to the viewer our organizational and executive coaching services. As a provider and trendsetter of anger management, Anderson & Anderson has done, and will continue to do, all it can to increase the prominence and stature of anger management intervention. Our plan is to distribute hard copies of these videos to all hospital boards, fortune 500 companies, and all interested third parties who have visited our website and blogs.

In the past three months, our website has had a dramatic increase in the number of web hits. In June, the number was 529,000. In July, it was a little higher than 563,000. August is shaping up to be even more effective, as we project a new record of over 600,000. The key is that we have been actively marketing our brand.

Anderson & Anderson is a small business with very big ideas. Our intern, Abel Garcia, saw fit to upload our first marketing video on Youtube!, MySpace, and fourteen additional websites. Furthermore, George Anderson, the founder of Anderson & Anderson, and his employees and anger management providers are consistently developing new ideas on how to market our brand. We encourage businesses of all types to be aggressive in their marketing campaigns. This means finding and implementing effective marketing strategies that spark an interest in society-at-large, yet is careful by not alienating the public.

Rasheed Ahmed
Office Manager
Anderson & Anderson
Anger Management Services

Monday, August 20, 2007

A Message to Human Resource Managers

Anger management is a cost saving intervention which every organization needs.

Neither your Employee Assistance Program nor your health care provider is equipped to provide your employees with enhancement skills needed to recognize and manage stress, anger, improve communication and develop emotional intelligence.

Anger management/executive coaching reduces an organization's liability relative to “hostile work environments”, bullying and workplace aggression or violence. It reduces sick day usage, accidents and workplace tension. Anger management increases productivity, boosts morale and increases the bottom line. Anger management helps managers lead and improves interpersonal relationships.

For information on how to provide anger management/executive coaching, please view our three minute DVD at

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CEAP, CAMF

Friday, August 17, 2007

Anger Management Institute of Texas receives Letter of Appreciation

Mr. Kyles,

I am writing you this to share my appreciation for your series of anger and stress management classes. As mentioned in many conversations, I had searched for a provider who was both a specialist in this area, and with whom I would feel personally and professionally comfortable. You met both of these criteria. I consulted with three and met with one other counselor in person. However, I felt that you were the best and most appropriate for my employees’ at Union Pacific Railroad. As the Regional EAP Manager for UP, which includes seven states access to your web site has made my job easier to refer employees’ in a timely manner. The outcome of your programs has been cost effective for the employer and the employee. You are the expert and for all to hear the best in the field.

Best Regards, and should anyone of your prospective clients be in need of a recommendation or additional information about your program, please have them contact me.

Tarsyia Waddell LPC.LCDC.CEAP.SAP
Regional UP- EAP Manager

Thank you again.

Anger Management Institute of Texas provides anger management classes utilizing the Anderson & Anderson intervention curriculum.

Gregory A. Kyles, M.A., LPC, CEAP, CAMF
Director, Anger Management Institute of Texas.

Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Co-Sponsor Anger Management Certification Training

The Anderson & Anderson Anger management certification training is now the industry standard and is recognized worldwide. Fortune 500 Companies, schools, jails, prisons, colleges, and governmental agencies such as the U.S. Postal Service, now use this model. You or your organization can add anger management to your areas of specialization and lower training costs by co-sponsoring a training seminar in your city.

What your school or organization provides:

• A training facility for 30 students/attendees.
• Notification of the surrounding mental health professionals,
substance abuse professionals, schools, colleges, probation
departments and group homes.
• Some Audio Video equipment needed for training.

Benefits of Co-Sponsoring:

• Two FREE seats for each day of training ($500.00)
• Total elimination of travel and per diem expense
•Acknowledgement of your organization on all marketing brochures
and webpage announcements.
Recognition as a leader in state of the art anger management Certification Training.

What Anderson & Anderson Provides:

• Quality training and provider Certification in Anger Management.
• Expert Instructors
• Anderson & Anderson curricula and client workbooks.
• Approved training for correctional staff, educators,
substance abuse counselors, mental health professionals
and the faith community.

Schedule an Event today. Contact our office at 310-207-3591.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Friday, August 10, 2007

New Anderson & Anderson Anger Executive Coaching Organizational Training Trailers

Anderson & Anderson continues to dominate the internet as far as anger management is concerned. Our website has captured the attention of many who are considering utilizing our model and services. In the month of July, our website reached new heights as it received over 560,000 hits. The major crutch of this success falls on the marketing of our first anger management marketing DVD.

We have now finished working on two new DVD trailers. One focuses specifically on Executive Coaching, and the other focuses on Organizational Development in the workplace. Please take the time to view these two new videos by visiting our website:

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Thursday, August 09, 2007

Assertive Communication Gains the Respect of Others

The Anderson & Anderson anger management curriculum includes four topics that are intimately related to managing anger and stress. These topics are anger management, stress management, assertive communication and emotional intelligence.

Learn to combine honesty with emotional intelligence to get more of what you want.

Assertive people can be honest and forthright while still showing respect for the feelings of others. Their skills and style of communication earn them respect and cooperation at work and in intimate relationships. Anger management training teaches skill enhancement in how to be more open, honest and direct in communication.

It does not pay to be aggressive in the way you communicate with others. It also does not pay to be passive or passive-aggressive. Others will not want to communicate with you try to intimidate them. They also will not care to communicate with you properly if they know that they can walk all over you. Being assertive lets the person with whom you are communicating that you value their position within the conversation, yet you also value where you stand. If the exchange turns into a disagreement, the assertive individual will be the more effective communicator than the one who is aggressive, passive, or passive-aggressive.


• An assessment at intake to determine the preferred style of communication
• Learning to listen with your heart
• Practicing non-verbal communication
• Saying what you mean and meaning what you say
• Dealing with issues in an emotionally intelligent way
• Mastering assertive communication
• Use of “I” statements

To learn more about the Anderson & Anderson anger management classes and executive coaching, visit our website at

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Your Children Are Watching You

Children need models rather than critics.” –Joseph Joubert

Anger management is a process that, like any other life skill, requires practice. It is impossible for one to enroll in an anger management program, and then suddenly be cured of aggressive, or passive aggressive, anger. The individual is bound to fall down occasionally. The goal should always be to pick oneself up and continue practicing the skills that have been taught. This is easier for individuals who have little to no influence on the actions of others. What about those who do have such influence? What happens when a person’s mistakes prove to be detrimental for those who look up to them the most?

When parents behave aggressively toward others in front of their children, they are not only embarrassing themselves, but they are also teaching their children that one has to be aggressively angry in order to get her or his way. Children watch their parents all of the time; and, unfortunately, what they see is not always good. Consider the mother who took her daughter with her to a check cashing office to contest a fee that she had been previously charged. The mother began by complaining about the amount and raising her voice to the clerk behind the counter. She continued to be belligerent and foul with her speech. Rather than explaining what the problem was in a calm, yet assertive tone, she made the clerk very uncomfortable to the point where he would not be motivated to try to help fix the problem. Furthermore, and more importantly, her daughter was observing her behavior.

Role modeling is very important and extremely sensitive. The fact remains that children are impressionable. At a very young age, they are likely to value their parents’ behavior more so than anyone else’s. Parents must pay more attention to their own behavior, especially when their children are by their side. Because it is only human that parents make mistakes, it behooves parents to explain to their child(ren) that being belligerent will not get them anywhere in life. Parents are never going to be perfect in front of their children. Children must be taught to understand that, and learn that mom and dad might say or do things that are not always healthy.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

A Message for All Anderson & Anderson Providers

Thanks to our successful Viral Marketing Campaign, nearly all Anderson & Anderson providers are offering excellent services and making real money. If you have not experienced an increase in your referrals and income, you need to join us in this exciting and free campaign.

Our Me Too” global competitor has an internet saturation of 138 in contrast to Anderson & Anderson’s Market Leap Search Engine Saturation of 2,928. We are, and should be, proud of our success.

To be a part of this effort, you must have a functional website, e-mail address and a willingness to place free ads on Craig’s List and Topix. In addition, you must place blog entries from Anderson & Anderson, as well as from other providers, on your site. Finally, you must agree to write comments on blog entries made by other Anderson & Anderson providers.

Because of its success, viral marketing will remain an integral part of Anderson & Anderson internet marketing and branding. For more information, first read our blogs at ,,

Read as many of the marketing blogs as possible. Once completed, contact our office and we can help you get started on the road to financial and practical success.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

A Commitment to Stress Reduction

How does one keep her or his level of stress down to a healthy minimum? Before we attempt to answer this question, it is imperative that we define the cause(s) of our stresses. It would not be practical to try to rid our lives of increased stress without paying close attention what the causes are. Let us assume that an individual has constant stomachaches everyday, but only when driving to work at 7:15 am on a freeway in a major metropolitan city. As it turns out, these stomachaches have nothing to do with the individual’s diet. They are a frequent occurrence due to an increased level of stress that this person is experiencing. What was the cause of the stress? This individual had to be at work at 8:00 am every morning, and work was about 50 miles away from home. The fear of arriving at work late turns out to be the cause of this increased stress.

Returning to the original question, how does one keep her or his level of stress down to a healthy minimum? One of the most effective ways of actively minimizing stress is to clean up your environment. Porter (2003) defines stress as “an interaction between you and your environment that causes you to feel uncomfortable in any way” (p.4). What is making the individual above stressed out is the state of the environment. It has more to do with the state of the environment than with any actor in particular. The way that this person would clean up her or his environment is by seeking a healthy alternative.

What a good anger and stress management program teaches is that each individual can only control her or his actions, and not anyone else’s. Since this is the case, it is important that each of us invest in what we can do in order to decrease our levels of stress. For instance, the individual above could arrange to drive to work earlier than usual to avoid the rush-hour traffic. This may involve making some initial sacrifices (such as retiring to bed earlier and waking up earlier the next morning), but they are well worth the exchange of relief that will be felt having found and utilized a solution to the stressful problem.


Porter, James E. (2003). The Stress Management Journal: 28 Days to Stress Mastery.
Norwalk, CT: AudioVision/ Medical Advisor: Paul Rosch, M.D.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Friday, August 03, 2007

Developing a Stress-Resistant Personality

I think the next best thing to solving a problem is finding some humor in it. –Frank Clark

Everyone is bound to face stress at one point or another in life. The fact is that we grow up physically and emotionally from when we are young to be able to handle many stressful situations. However, the degree to which we are stressed can be unnecessarily exacerbated to the point that we become physically and mentally unbalanced. The key to dealing with excessive stress is developing a stress-resistant personality.

The Problem of Not Being Stress Resistant

Below is a list of traits common among people who have not developed a stress-resistant personality. These traits may trigger a stress reaction:

 Unrealistic expectations
 Constant dissatisfaction
 Inability to relax
 Always in a hurry
 Constantly worrying about little things
 Making things seem worse than they really are

How to Develop a Stress-Resistant Personality

* Getting Regular (non-competitive) exercise
* Consider problems as challenges
* Look for possibilities and creative solutions
* Buffer stress with a commitment to family, friends, religious and
community activities
* Develop a support group by getting involved and keeping in touch with others
* Getting proper rest
* Learn to be helpful and give to others

Try to accept the fact that, in the reality of life, things don’t work always work out the way we want or expect. People who are always rushing and pushing often accomplish less than people who take time to plan and relax.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Urgent Message to all Anderson & Anderson Providers

The public’s interest in anger management has reached unprecedented proportions. For the first time ever, the Anderson & Anderson Anger Management Website received 529,000 hits for the month of June. No other similar site has ever come close in terms of this amount of hits in one month. For the month of July, our hits have surpassed this number and are now 563,274.
All professional anger management providers are benefiting from this surge in the public’s recognition of the value of anger management intervention.

All Anderson & Anderson anger management providers should follow suit in this advertising phenomenon. It is extremely important that all providers place free ads regarding their services on Craigslist at for your City and State. In addition, you can place free ads on at . You should place a free press release regarding any aspect of your practice on different press release internet sites. Many of these sites can be found on search engines such as Yahoo! and Google.

It is imperative for all providers to join this surge and benefit from this win/win opportunity. It is to your advantage to make clear in your ad that you are a Certified Anderson & Anderson Anger Management Provider and use our curriculum. Marketing is critical in the success of your small business practice. Together, we can continue to expand our dominance of anger management worldwide.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers

Anger Management for Marriage and/or Divorcing Clients

Unfortunately, intense or prolonged anger is a core problem in many problem marriages. In addition, mental illness is rarely the cause of divorce. Uncontrolled anger is by far the most frequent creator of conflict in marriages.

Case example 1
I have had the experience of providing anger management for a number of physicians. I began with a couple (who were also physicians) who originally came ostensibly because of a disagreement over whether or not to have children. One-half of this couple wanted to have children, while the other did not. Both experienced intense, prolonged anger, which resulted in emotional estrangement.

Following an anger management assessment, as well as an E.Q. Map test, it was determined by both of them that a substantive issue was an irreconcilable disagreement over finances and their lifestyle.

They made a decision to pursue an amicable divorce without fault; hence, the anger management coaching was a success.

Case example 2
A second case example consists of a Surgeon whose wife has a PhD. This couple came after a number of years of individual and couples counseling. These resources failed to help with the husband’s anger. This case did not proceed to coaching, as the husband lied on both of the assessment instruments and insisted that he did not have any problems whatsoever.

Surprisingly, the husband’s behavior in the assessment helped the couple decide that he was not motivated to make any changes in his behavior. This resulted in his wife’s decision to end the marriage.

Anger management is not a panacea. However, it is an intervention that can be helpful for couples that have problems managing anger, stress, assertive communication and/or emotional intelligence.

George Anderson, MSW, BCD, CAMF, CEAP
Diplomate, American Association of Anger Management Providers